You know it, I know it but how to help someone else to develop their own coping skills especially a young adult with far too much responsibility and few social skills with their own peer group.
I love this young adult as if she were my own and I want to help. The basic problem is that I am not a good role model for the social skills and the depression has been a part of my life for so long I don't know what life looks like without it. If you recognize this young adult please don't call her that will only make the situation worse.
What causes Depression?
I am not going to fill this post with a lot of medical talk suffice it to say that a lot of things can cause it but in my case, at least, it is not a life event but a ongoing problem in my brain. To find out about it read the article by the Harvard Medical School article linked in the title. It is also hereditary, go figure, my dad had it, I have it, both my children have it and the girl probably has it.
The treatment is medication but first she has to see a psychiatrist and get diagnosed. This seems to be a difficulty for her for some reason.
Once the medication becomes active she then needs to find ways to cope when the bad days come. Hopefully the professional from the first part will help her with these if not I will.
She is concerned that she has dyslexia, this concern is adding to her stress join this with a certain social awkwardness and you have a person who is very messed up. My role as always is to act as a friendly ear and a shoulder to cry on to help her begin to see the trees not just the debris in front of her.
Once she can see the tree then maybe she can begin to see the forest and where she fits into it.
What can I do?
1) provide a friendly ear, an open mind and a loving heart
2) assist with getting her the appointment she needs at the hospital
Teach her some of the easier coping methods for when she feels like she's drowning or whatever it feels like to her
Help her to get testing done to determine if she does have dyslexia and which flavour /s. (Found out in my reading that the psychologist/psychiatrist can help her with this testing as dyslexia is also brain based)
Well I've done a lot of reading and writing so now I just need to wait until she gets here and do what I do best listen and give advise.