Love is!

 I have a very fundamental belief that there is good in everyone from the hardened criminal to the most difficult child. I find it impossible to give up on anyone no matter how they behave or talk. It is a difficult thing trying to embody love in this day and age yet it is exactly what I am driven to do. Yes driven, if I can help anyone even the homeless and the drug addict then that is what I do. My grand-daughter is a difficult child on the cusp of becoming a teenager, her father is also a difficult person and he was a difficult child but I will defend them to my last breathe. If I can direct them down a more loving path or help them curb their tendency to say what is in their head regardless of what it may be then I will.

Some people think that because I am like this I am blind to the person  or people I am talking to. I am not, if anything I am very conscious of them. I read their body language, their tone tells me a lot, how they hold themselves and the things they do. I see it all but I still offer a hand when and where I can. We are all humans, we are all made the same way, we all are born and we will all die eventually. Our upbringing, our life events both happy and sad change us, we can become angry at the hand we have been dealt.

I do not believe in fate, we all choose our own path rather we act, react or do nothing. Some people get a raw deal, someone they love dies or they are being abused by a parent or other adult in their life, they cope. Sometimes they don't choose the "normal" path, the one the world accepts as the only way to be. It is a choice, their choice but they are no less human because of that choice. We put down the homeless, or the mentally ill or the drug addict or the confused child and say they are no good and they never will be. I do not accept this! I will never accept this! They are people not lesser beings, broken sure but most broken things can be fixed if you can find the right tool. People either will choose to do better or not, we can not change them to suit our standards and not expect them to lose their spark.

That needs clarifying I think. People choose their own path, by action and inaction both, it is a choice. We can try to change them to suit ourselves or societal norms. If we succeed we reduce them to pale images of who they could be. They lose their spark. That piece of themselves we take away from them may be the difference between them becoming a star or a stone.

Love is not demanding it simply is. Acceptance of the differences and an offer to help them with no strings attached that is love in its simplest form. No either do it this way or go away. I am guilty of this on occasion myself. Rules must be set and carved in stone but they are your rules and no one will conform exactly. If they break the rules then they are not allowed back for a set amount of time. If they break the rules three times then they are sent away until they can.

At no time will I ever say go away and never come back, I am not made that way.